Types of Flirt Signals, Signs of Jealousy, Qualities of a Good Friend... Hmm, Really?

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(Our Advice to "Stephanie" from ~ Bootcamp Staff)

"Friends or Not Friends "

by Stephanie
(Canada)

My boyfriend and I were friends with a couple. Our kids are the same age and we all had a lot of fun together.One day the female from the other couple had started to talk about her relationship with her man and the conversation led to the use of dildos, three-somes and four-somes. Finally she told me she would feel comfortable sleeping with my man and me.We discussed the issue and I finally said I wasn't comfortable with it and I couldn't have a four-some with friends.

A few months later she came to our home with her children and had just broken up with her man (their relationship had always been rocky). She was dressed in a short dress, bending over in front of my man. I felt so jealous, I had a fit on my boyfriend, and he kept saying he never noticed her doing anything wrong.

Then, he called her asking her if she had deeper feelings for him (if she would have said yes then we wouldn' be friends anymore) and he questioned her about our foursome talk. Then told her not to tell me he had called her. AS I would of gotten jealous again.

I felt so threatened and vulnerable because my man and I have a 16 year age difference and she is closer to his age than I am. They also share more things in common, and I was overweight at the time.

My man tells me he loves me I am the only one he ever wants.I love him too and I am sorry I have ruined a good friendship because of my obsessed and jealous ways.

Before when we all hung out, I got a little jealous but I easily got passed it, however since she mentioned the four-some thing it's been a harder issue.

I stopped talking to them, my man and I miss their company and friendship. I want to call her but I am still feeling weird about it and don't know how to go about it.

Any ideas? Is it a friendship worth saving?

Thanks, Stephanie


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Types of Flirt Signals, Signs of Jealousy, Qualities of a Good Friend... Hmm, Really?