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A Porn Issue I Cannot Get Over... HELP I am NUTS!

by Alissa B

(California)

I found a few times (3 diff occasions) when my husband was looking at porn while listening to music and things. It was while I and our kids were running around the house like a normal weekend (so I guess he never masturbated to it).

Well I brought it up for the 1000th time, tonight (its been 3 months now) asking him WHY and why did he view the same girl more than once. I asked him how he thinks it made me feel...

He said "well I don't know, maybe I liked her work." "Its just like watching a movie to me, entertainment, I think nothing of it, I was bored". He said "I don't view you any less. They are fake, you are real and we have 3 beautiful kids and you are beautiful with an amazing body."

He said "its not an issue anymore, as it was only a week that he did it, he won't do it again and I love you" blah blah... which I don't believe as I know he still does.

Our sex life is great, and he is always acting like I am the hottest woman alive. This is why it was a shocker to me.

Ok. So the issue I have now, is what he said: "he liked her work" what? like she's a f-ing actress? Shes a porn star! So I called him on that, and he's like "iI don't know, I don't know what to say anymore except I had a stupid moment, I was bored and wanted sex, but we couldn't, and she reminded me the most of you". Fake big boobs,(mine are big but real) she was blond like me, but obviously FAKE. SKINNY (I was pregnant and NOT my skinny self).

If that's what he obviously likes, of course I feel ugly. Why am I so hurt by this? I do believe him when he says he finds me beautiful, but how can I forgive him for viewing other girls having sex?Yes I should be thankful he isn'tout cheating on me, but I cannot let this go. I am beating it with a stick here.

There is nothing left for him to say, yet I keep wanting to drill him on it. Should I drop it and accept his reasoning, or should I worry?

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